The first thing that needs to be figured out is who will be handling what aspects of your wedding day.
This is often a difficult situation because people will go one of two ways.
• They may want to do anything and everything for you. They may want to pay for everything, spoil you rotten and make sure that everything is perfect for you. They often want a controlling hand in the wedding planning to go along with this, though.
• They may instead want to play a minimal role in your wedding, making sure that you pay for and lead the way in your wedding decisions.
Of course, you are looking for the happy medium here.
To make sure that this happens, the first thing that you need to do is to get together those that will play a large role in your wedding celebration and planning including those that do want to play a role and those that are close family.
This would include:
• Parents, step parents, and grandparents.
• Godparents or mentors within the family or friend structure.
• Close friends.
• The wedding party.
When everyone can come together, they can make decisions as a whole or at least find out what role they will play in this very important day for you and for them.
Now, who’s doing what?
The Wedding Etiquette Breakdown Of Who’s Who
Here’s a breakdown of some of the most important players and what they are traditionally supposed to do on your wedding day.
Mother Of The Bride
#1 goal is to make sure that the bride’s wishes are carried out the way that she wants them to be. The mother of the bride is there to help her to make sure that what she wants and what she needs happens.
It is very important that the mother of the bride allows for the bride’s tastes, desires and needs to be provided for.
This does not mean that they can dictate what happens, but rather should insure that what does is what the bride wants.
As one of the largest role players, here are her responsibilities:
• The Wedding Attire. The mother of the bride should help to find the perfect dress for the wedding, including undergarments and accessories. Not your tastes, but hers should come through.
• Guest Lists. The mother of the bride should help to organize guest lists, coordinating with the mother of the groom. If the mother of the groom does not contact her, she should make the first attempt.