As the maid of honor and the best man, naturally you are smitten by the idea of being your best friend’s rock on what can only be called the most important day of their life – their wedding!

brides maid of honorAlthough smitten by the couple’s gesture, there are a few realities about being pronounced best man and maid of honor that one can not ignore. If you’ve ever had the job before, then you know what you are about to read is the gospel. If you haven’t had this “honor” then beware! While exciting, my dear future men and maids everywhere, there is one thing to consider before you take that leap for love–the job really bites! It bites into your time, your finances, and God knows, it bites into your patience!

I know you romantics are thinking. “It’s my best friend and it’s such an honor to even be asked!” As our good friend Shakespeare once said, “Ah there’s the rub,” as it is this sort of sentiment that has led many down the seemingly endless pathway of planning, pampering, and parting. Thus, there is a need for caution. While it is indeed an honor, bear in mind this is a monumental responsibility.

Most of us have some idea of what is involved, but few amateurs consider the time, money, and patience required to successfully complete the tasks at hand.  First, both man and maid must make sure that the bride and groom are sufficiently pampered before the wedding. This involves scheduling manicures, pedicures, facials, waxing, threading, and whitening. The second duty involves partying. Most man and maid honorees are aware of their responsibility to throw the bachelor party and bachelorette party, but few consider the bridal shower, engagement party, and rehearsal dinner. Separately, both have to consider a wedding toast, dances, fittings, locations, logistics, and meetings. All of the aforesaid brings me to the third, and likely the most important, aspect of the job-planning.   In fact, once you are pronounced both man and maid, you have vowed to love, honor, and cherish your wedding couple for as long and their engagement shall live. Remember, as best man and maid of honor you must do everything to ensure the success of the happy event!

So when that special person in your life unexpectedly pops the question, I beg you to consider your prior commitments, your finances, and your own very delicate social calendar before ‘YOU’ say “I do”!